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Falling in love with yourself.

Every time we talk about love, we think about loving someone or something. A friend, fiancé, spouse, parents, books, a place, a dish, sunsets, sunrises and the list is endless. But how often is it that we think about loving our own selves? Is loving someone else easier than falling in love with yourself?

It is thought of that finding the right partner completes us, he/she fills that empty space in our hearts and rids us of our problems. But when we come to think of it, it’s the exact opposite. You yourself have to do all of that.

So what Does loving thyself mean? Is it about the looks or is it about Your nature?

To me, loving yourself means appreciating your capabilities, knowing your worth and accepting your flaws. It is to cater to our own needs and not wait for someone else to do that. It is to realize your strengths and weaknesses, chase your dreams and to forgive yourself for your mistakes and failures. For once. Make yourself a priority.

As Samantha Jones from SATC said- “I love you..But I love me more. I have been in a relationship with myself for 49 years and that’s the one I need to work one.”

Here’s a list of ways that might make you fall in love with yourself.

Working out: Yes! You heard it right. Personally, I have never been comfortable in my body. I have always been on the heavier side (thanks to the hormones and genetics). I would always want to wear clothes from all the aisles in the mall. But more than half of the times, they didn’t fit me. I have been through the worst phase of PCOD too (it just added on to all of that). Working out is not just about burning calories, it is about investing time in yourself. Work on yourself, develop a healthy lifestyle, have healthy food. I mean, how can you not love yourself when you are taking such good care of “U”.

Look back on your achievements: Take out your old certificates and trophies and remind yourself of what you are capable of. It will give you that feeling, no one or nothing else can.

Maintain a diary/journal: Its like talking to yourself. Everyday write something nice about yourself. One positive character in you. Note down your daily achievements. It might be as Simple as completing your to do list. But that will definitely make you pat your back and feel proud of yourself.

No comparison: Never compare yourself to others. Every one faces a different set of challenges. And so different failures and successes. Never think of yourself to be less than the other person.

Self trust: This is very very important. We all dislike people who lie to us or let us down. But knowingly or unknowingly, we often do that to ourselves. Trust yourself, trust your judgement, your decision, trust yourself that you can sail through this difficult time. Remind yourself of times you have done that in the past. Be true to yourself.

Pamper yourself: Go to the spa, go shopping. Dress up, put some makeup on and take yourself for a movie/ dinner date. If you look good to yourself, you are more likely to fall in love with “U”. It is absolutely OK to splurge and indulge in yourself once in a while. This is a great way to show yourself some love. Something you will be glad about later. I had this friend who used to go the mall, try on some clothes in the trial room, take pictures and feel happy. Sometimes you just need to step out, get some fresh air, clear your head and remind yourself of who you are and what you wanna be.

Hobbies: Work on things you like to do. This is a great way to spend some quality ‘me’ time and concentrate on yourself. When you do something you love, you will definitely love the person doing it.

Surround yourself with positive people: Declutter. Just remove all the negativity from your life. People, things, unwanted stuff. Be with people who uplift you, who know you for the good in you. People who have been with you through your past achievements, and who can remind you about your capabilities and capacities. These people are your mirrors. Look at yourself through their eyes.

Improvement: Work on things you have wanted to improve. Like losing weight, getting fit, drinking more water in a day, eat healthy, not losing your temper, saying yes to everything and everyone, planning your day. It might be anything, depends from person to person. Remind yourself of the end result and how it is going to make you a better person.

Do a noble cause: Doing something for the society like a charity or blood donation will Definitely give you a feel good feeling about yourself.

Me time: go on a solo trip, sit back and relax with that cuppa, read a book.

Let go of the past: The more you hold on to it, the more you poison yourself.

Be adventurous: Do things out of your comfort zone, something you have never tried before or never even thought of. You will get to know yourself more. And it definitely will be positive.

Loving yourself is very important for a happy you. And a happy you is mandatory for building happy relationships and a happier life. You deserve the kind of love you would give to someone else.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong relationship”- Oscar Wilde

Product reviews

Dealing with the mosquito menace

It feels great to see our kids sleep in peace. But sometimes this beauty sleep is disturbed by them mosquitoes, gnats and flies. We feel that inside our homes, the kids are safe from all of them. But in reality, these little monsters are hiding away in all the corners of the house. I could see mosquito bites on my kids Hands and legs even while playing inside the house or even after waking up in the morning. A lot many times even when my daughter comes back from school, she has bites on her face and legs. Earlier I was applying the repellant only while going outdoors, but now I do so even when inside the house. We reduced our park trips due to this menace.
My search for the best mosquito repellant led me to buying products from these brands. I had been using odomos till now, but it wasn’t that effective in keeping the mosquitoes and gnats at bay. So we finally ordered our mosquito repellant patches, fabric roll on and spray from @mamaearth.in and goodnight. Today I will be reviewing them both for you.

Goodnight:

1. Fabric roll on– It contains natural oils like citronella oil and eucalyptus oil. It is to be applied as coin sized dots on the fabric on both the shoulders and legs. I have recently started using this fabric roll on my MIL’s advice. I must say it gives a fairly good protection. Though it doesn’t work for 8 hours as claimed, it gives protection for upto 5 to 6 hours. One downside of it is that it has a strong smell. So it might be troublesome and kids might dislike it. Overall if I have to rate, I would give it a 3.5/5. Will I but it again? Maybe.

2. Repellant patches- Its contents are same as the fabric roll on. The patch can be applied on the clothes, strollers and cots. When applying on the clothes, apply one each on the upper and lower body. First off, it doesn’t stick too well. My 18 month old easily removed it. It also has a strong smell. And it also doesn’t give protection for 8 hours. It works for roughly 5 hours. I would rate it 3.5/5. Will I buy it again? No. I think there are other better options.

Mamaearth:

1. Natural mosquito repellant spray– it is 100% natural and DEET free. It contains natural oils like cold pressed castor oil and soybean oil, and essential oils like citronella oil, cedar oil, rosemary oil, lemongrass oil and peppermint oil. The best part is, it is easy to apply as it is in a spray bottle form. So u need to spray it directly on to the skin and then just spread it. It has a mild smell and is not irritating for the kids. Also, it gives protection for a good 10 to 12 hours. I would definitely rate it 4.5/5 and yes I am definitely buying this again.

2. Repellant patches– its contents are same as the repellant spray. It also is 100% natural and DEET free. It claims to protect from even dengue, malaria and chikungunya. It can be pasted on to the cot, pram, school bag and clothes. And it is also waterproof. So not to worry even during rains. This also gives around 10 to 12 hours of protection. The stick is pretty good. The kids will require an effort to remove it, so that’s a plus point. I would rate it a 4.5/5 and would definitely but them again.
So in a gist, I am liking all the above products except the good night repellant patches. I got them on amazon.in and nykaa.

P.S. THATS A NON WORKING PHONE IN HIS HAND, HE WONT LET GO OFF..

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HEALTH, self care

23 tried and tested ways to de- stress

These days life has become very stressful. Things like traffic jams, unhappy/ troubled relationships, heavy workload, motherhood, exams, everyday expenses are the most common sources of stress and tension. Whenever, we are stressed, our hormones go into the fight or flight response. This increases our heart rate and we start breathing heavily/ feel anxious/ feel nervous. Whenever in such a situation, it is important to activate the body’s relaxation response. Being stressed is not really a choice, but to relax is.

Today’s post is all about things that help me to relax or de- stress and which maybe useful for you all too. The list is in no particular order.

  1. WALK: go for a walk, especially where there is greenery. Might be a neighbourhood park or your own garden or even in your balcony with your potted plants. This boosts our endorphins and reduces the stress hormones. This will automatically attract your attention to the surrounding and away from the stress causing factor.
  2. DEEP BREATHING: will make your body feel relaxed. Deep breathing-> oxygen boost-> reduced stress.
  3. MEDITATION: easier said than done. We are not saints who can meditate anywhere and everywhere. So what we can do is, we can concentrate all our attention on one particular point in the room/ wherever you are. It might be the wall, a painting, or a showpiece. Automatically, your brain is diverted to that thing and away from the stress. Many a times chanting “AUM” also works.
  4. TALK/ SPEAK- UP/ SHARE: It maybe your friend, your mom, sibling, colleague or just any random person. Just vent it out. Keeping it within is going to increase your stress- level. It is necessary to get rid of your stress inducing thought.
  5. MUSIC: It is often suggested that we listen to classical or soothing music to relax. But, i would say, listen to whatever music that makes you happy. We need to release those feel good hormones to relax. For some it might be rock or maybe jazz, basically any music that you love. I have known surgeons who listen to music while operating just because it relaxes them. And if none of the above, then sing/ humm for yourself. Worse come worse you will end up laughing at your singing skills, which will also give the desired result- relaxation.
  6. YOU TUBE: watch funny videos, especially those of animals (cats and dogs) and babies. There is no way you wont feel relaxed. Laughing-> increased oxygen intake-> releasing feel good hormones -> relaxation.
  7. MATHS: I know, many of you might be saying, this woman is crazy. But trust me solving a simple maths equation or sum will relax you well. It might even be something as simple as counting forwards and backwards or reciting the tables.
  8. GET CRAFTY: Create/ make something. Activities with repeated motions like knitting, jewellery making, origami, drawing and painting, doodling, or sometimes even colour my daughters colouring books. These fine motor activities grab your attention such that you forget the reason for your stress.
  9. Take a warm bath or relax in the pool.
  10. YOGA: SHAVASANA is the most common asana for relaxing. It helps you regulate your breathing and also in muscle relaxation. All you need is a mat or even a carpet will do. And if nothing is available just lie down on the floor. Or just lay back on your chair. You can even try the other stress- relieving poses like the eagle pose.
  11. DANCE: Go to a pub, discotheque, or just dance in front of the mirror or wherever you are. People might make fun of you, but its helping you. And when they see you enjoying, i am sure they will join in. Remember how Meredith Grey (Any greys anatomy fans here?) dances it out? Its the same. Dont worry about anything or anyone, you need those feel good hormones.
  12. HUG: Now, this might sound stupid to many. But ask someone to hug you. It might be your office colleague, sibling, BFF, or a random person. You can even try hugging your favourite pillow. Whenever you hug someone or someone hugs you, you feel the support, you feel cared for, you will feel happy and so relaxed.
  13. PET: that furball of yours will give you immense joy when you play with it or take it out for a walk. Hug your pet Nd talk to it.
  14. DECLUTTER: This is one of the main things that i personally do to relax. Just pick a corner of the house, or a drawer, or your cupboard and start decluttering and cleaning and organizing it. The idea is to get rid of the junk or unwanted stuff. It acts like a vent out for the negativity that is causing the stress.
  15. ROCKING CHAIR: Ever wondered why and how a crying baby is consoled or put to sleep? Its the rocking movement that is used. This rocking movement releases the endorphins which improve your mood and thus reduce anxiety. Now, obviously you cannot be held like a baby, so go get that rocking chair.
  16. SCREAM/ SIGH: The idea is to let it all out. I have seen it in a bollywood movie. Letting out a scream or a heavy sigh makes yu take in more oxygen after, which helps to calm down your nerves and you feel light and relaxed.
  17. CHEWING GUM: According to some studies, chewing a piece of gum, improves your breathing and thus reduces anxiety.
  18. TREAT TIME: A small piece of chocolate never hurt anyone. I am not saying binge eat or eat the whole bar. Just a small chunk. Getting a little sugar in your system will definitely make you feel good. And no, this doesnt mean that i support stress eating.

The above mentioned ways were what you can do when you are feeling stressed, like immediately at that moment. But there are certain things that you should follow in general in your daily routine to help you fight stress. Lets take a look at them:

  1. Try and get GOOD QUALITY SLEEP. Switch off that mobile/ TV atleast an hour before going to bed. Light some scented candles in your room, have a warm bath, have a nice conversation with your partner and go to bed. Also, do not drink tea/ coffee after 7 PM. Caffiene will make you more alert and will compromise your sleeping time.
  2. REDUCING SCREENTIME: More screentime throughout the day leads to disturbed sleep, stress and depression (in extreme cases). If you are a office worker, then screen time= work. So, try and take breaks every hour or two. Drink water, take a small walk in and around your office, listen to some music, chat with your colleague, do stretching exercises at your desk. Just go off screen for sometime and then return refreshed and start working again. For SAHM, make sure you use your mobiles, laptops, TV when the kids are sleeping or are at the school or day care. When they are home spend all the time with them. Automatically your screentime reduces to just a few hours. And spending time with kids is one of the best stress busters.
  3. MINDFUL EATING: Always be careful of what you put in your system. There are some foods that may cause digestion issues. These might get you stressed. Snack on healthy options like dry fruits, nuts, fruits. Get out of the room, go to a peaceful corner with lots of air and light and eat. Focus on the food and how it makes you feel. It is very important to nourish your system from within.
  4. HOUSEPLANTS: Some plants are not just air purifiers but also act as calming agents. Keep one on your office desk, decorate them in your living room/ bedroom/ in your house. Even talking to plants helps. Imagine you are talking to your friend.
  5. SELF CARE: That occasional visit to the salon or spa is also needed. Get a nice massage or just a mani/ pedi. Enjoy that me time. Go for shopping alone. Retail therapy never hurt anyone, especially you girls out there.

So thats all..

I know it was a long post but i am sure you would agree with a couple pointers here and will find the others to be helpful as well. Most of these methods are tried and tested by me, so i know for sure that they work.

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Parenthood

The better half..

These days we see a lot many men helping their wives at home or with housework. They are being more involved in the household work. It is not like the olden days, where the only role of a man played was of bread winner. Why do you think this scenario is changing? Or why didnt this scenario exist then?

I feel the important thing is to let the men help with the household chores. Do not criticize their efforts. That would discourage them easily to not try at all.  A lot many men fall short of being involved  because they dont know how. Sometimes we women underestimate the capabilities our husband’s possess. It is important to trust them. Maybe they wont do it up to our mark/ expectation, but we should let them try and appreciate them for it. That’s when they will take the initiative to be more involved. In today’s generation fathers play an important role in raising responsible adults. He cares, teaches, provides, forgives and protects. There is no doubt that the kids need their moms more but they equally need their dad.

My mother often tells me that i am ucky to have a husband who helps out with the house work and the kids. Yes, he is an amazing father and husband. He is equally involved in the house and our kid’s lives. But the important part is, he wants to be! In today’s generation if it is important for both the husband and wife to be working, then so is both of their involvement in parenting.

My husband being in the defense services, we are always on the move. It is not possible for us to be with our parents all the time and even for them to be around always. In this scenario it is really important for both of us to share all the responsibilities. It is important to work as a team. Being in a indian setup there are some chores that i wont be talking about like doing the dishes, sweeping, mopping, dusting and maybe laundry as here we mostly have maids to do these chores. But following are the chores that i feel the husbands can be helpful with.

  • The husband can sometimes share the cooking duties with you. Maybe you can decide the days each of you would be cooking.
  • You both can take turns with the kids homework and schoolwork. Even taking them out for various hobby classes.
  • Take turns in looking after the kids when either of you is at the gym. Parenthood doesn’t leave us with much time on our hands, and then the fitness takes a backseat. But this is how you both can work it out. And thats what we have been doing for all these months.
  • If you are a SAHM, then ofcourse you will be responsible for the parenting duties during the day. So, let your husband take over these duties after his work hours or on weekends. This will allow you to have some “me time”, which is very important for your sanity.
  • They can take turns waking up with the kids, playing with them, in the bedtime routines or getting them ready for school.
  • He can come along with you to run errands like grocery shopping or mall visits. Or even better if he dives in to do it on his own.

Every household is different and so are the chores. It is not necessary that what Husband A does, should be done by Husband B as well. Maybe Husband B is better at other chores. The basic idea is to trust them and let them help around. Let them help with what they are good at. It might not be perfect but the efforts and willingness count.

These days our lives are so busy.. There are so many things on our mind. We strive to do what is best for us and our family. So, if you need help from your better half, ask him for it. Tell him that is expected to do that. Remember it is a teamwork and not a single player game. So work it out together. In the long run, it is beneficial for all including your kids.

To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be present in their today”- source google.

HEALTH

The nutty affair..

We are often advised to eat soaked almonds every morning to improve our memory. We have seen our grandmothers and mothers adding dry fruits in some or the other way to our food or milk every day. I for one was never too keen and serious about consuming them in my daily diet. I used to munch on a handful of them if and when I felt like.

However, since the past couple of months, I have been including them in our daily diet, which has benefited me in many ways. So, in this post I will share with you all how I include them in my daily diet and how it has helped me.

Every night I soak around 10 to 12 almonds and 3 walnuts for us. And I also soak 8 to 10 black raisins with 3 to 4 strands of saffron for myself. My husband and my daughter, eat the almonds and walnut with their breakfast. I however eat them first thing in the morning along with my raisins and saffron. And sometimes as a snack in the evening. And for my 17 months old son, I just grind them and add it to his food. As he is still unable to chew them completely.

Let’s look into the benefits now.

  1. Almonds– are high in monounsaturated fatty acids and Vitamin E, which help in maintaining cholesterol levels. It also contains magnesium and potassium which normalizes the blood pressure and heart function. It is also rich in dietary fibre, proteins and good fats (helps in weight management).
  1. Walnuts– are rich in Vitamin E, Omega 3 fatty acids and antioxidants, which improve one’s cognitive function, helps to fight stress and provides a sense of calm. The B- vitamins and antioxidants present in a walnut prevents the signs of ageing (wrinkles), strengthens the hair and prevents hair fall.
  1. Dates– rich in iron, hence beneficial for anaemic people. It has high amounts of natural sugars, which provide a boost of energy. Used by many to break their fasts. It’s high fibre content promotes digestion and relieves constipation.
  1. Raisins– made from dehydrated grapes. They are packed with fibres, vitamins and minerals and energy. They are known to reduce acidity and help in digestion. Some people even eat a few raisins before going to bed at night. They also boost your iron levels and keep your bones strong. They also help in treating bloating, anaemia, fever, and sexual dysfunction, help in a healthy weight gain, also have a good impact on eye, dental, hair and bone health.
  1. Pistachios– help lowering the bad cholesterol level, boost immunity and even fight diabetes. But of course, not the salted ones.
  1. Cashews– are loaded with vitamins, minerals and antioxidants (vitamins E, K and B6/ minerals like copper, phosphorus, zinc, magnesium, iron and selenium). All these help in maintaining good body functions. It helps in reducing the blood pressure and bad cholesterol levels. It helps the body to form and utilize the red blood cells, thus, keeping the vessels, nerves, immune system and bones healthy. It also helps in weight loss (good cholesterol).

My personal experience:

My hair loss has reduced tremendously, my hair texture and quality has improved and so has its growth rate. My acidity and bloating has completely vanished, there is an overall improvement in my digestion. Also, my skin has become smoother, and it glows. Yes, it does (the saffron definitely has a role to play here).

So, go ahead and start eating these powerhouses from tomorrow. You may soak them and eat in the morning or maybe just as a snack. But do include them in your daily diet. And see the results for yourself.

 

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Parenthood

Kids helping with household chores

Every household has this discussion of whether and when to involve the kids with the household chores. A coin has both sides. There are people who feel it is best to start and teach them young and there are people who believe in letting them enjoy their childhood till it lasts.

I, happen to be one of those who believe that it is best to teach them young. It’s never too early to get your child involved in the household chores. It is best to lay the foundation for skills useful later in life. It is necessary for them to learn that it is part of daily life and that everyone needs to contribute in running a household. After all, these life skills are necessary when they have their own house, job and start their own family. It might be something very small, but it will teach them to cooperate with others and that helping around the house is important. Kids always copy what mommy and daddy do. So what better way to teach them by example and by starting young. It helps to build their confidence. And yes, don’t forget to praise them plenty, for all their efforts.

Here I have mentioned a few chores that kids of respective ages can help with. There is no hard and fast rule, chores can be different according to every household. This is just a general idea I have in mind.

  • Young kids (around 5 years old) can help with folding small clothes, keeping things (especially their toys) in place, setting up the table at meal times, they can help in making the bed like placing the pillows and sheets, wiping surfaces, serving their own food, handing out clothes while hanging the laundry and throwing the trash. It is best to start with things that they can relate to. Don’t look for perfection. Their effort and willingness to help is what matters.
  • A little older kids (7 to 9 years) can help with dressing themselves up, packing their lunch box and water bottle, setting up their school bag, keeping away their school bag and shoes, sorting everyone’s clothes in different piles, polishing their own school shoes, cleaning up the table after mealtimes, watering the plants and feeding the pet.
  • Once the kids enter their teens, they would like more responsible work. For them it’s more of being part of the real life than just play. Like grocery shopping, cook simple meals, walk the dog, or taking care of the pet, help their younger siblings with schoolwork, baby sit the younger ones when parents are out, mow the lawn they can even help with the laundry, sweeping /mopping/ vacuuming, and wash the utensils. They can even earn some pocket money this way. In fact, in the western countries, teenagers even take up part time or weekend or vacation jobs to earn that extra pocket money or maybe contribute to household finances. This will help improving their confidence, self-esteem, problem solving skills and self-reliance.

 

Remember:

  • Let them help as soon as you think they are ready.
  • Initially make it fun.
  • Remember to do it as a team.
  • Encourage and praise them for however small their effort.
  • Reward them with whatever you feel is ok.
  • Never use it as a punishment.
  • And most important. All chores have to be gender neutral. Learning to cook and do the laundry is equally important for boys as is learning to wash their car for girls.

 

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Brahma kamal / The Lotus of Lord Brahma

FLOWERS ARE THE MUSIC OF THE GROUND. DROM EARTH’S LIPS SPOKEN WITHOUT SOUND – Edwin Curran

This flower is considered to be magical and rare. It is the most revered flower of the Himalayas. This flower blooms in the monsoon season (June to September). Also, it blooms only once in a year or a couple of years. Anyone who sees this flower bloom is considered LUCKY!! The myth says that the wishes of the person who sees it blooming come true. The plant must be planted before winters and it needs lots of indirect sunshine and a very fertile but rocky soil. It needs very little water. Over watering may cause water clogging and it may die. As the scientific name suggests Saussurea obvallata, it is actually a type of cactus. It is often applied on bruises and cuts, and is also used in treating cerebral ischemia and paralysis of the limbs. Also it smells heavenly. However this flower blooms only for a couple of hours and that too only at night. Also you can cut the leaf of the plant and just replant it.

WHY AM I WRITING THIS POST??

This flower here has taught me my biggest life lesson “To enjoy the small joys of life”. It has made me realize that real happiness isn’t something big, but numerous small things. These might me everyday things like, the first rains, a nice meal, your baby’s smile or even a new book. It is these small things that make our life worth living. Many a times we lose or let go of these small treasures in search of the bigger happiness. These little details are vital. They make big things happen.

Joy comes to us in ordinary moments, we risk missing out when we get too busy, chasing down the extraordinary – Brene Brown

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Life lessons courtsey motherhood

Motherhood is amazing, eye opening, challenging and completely transformational. We moms are badass. We have superhuman powers. We can multitask like no one can. Have 10 things on my to do list. Just give me an hour and i will do 15. Our thinking capability triples up after having a baby. Anyways on a serious note, here is what being a mother has taught me. Or lets say “life lessons motherhood has taught me”.

Strength– i never knew that i was capable of bearing the pain that childbirth had to offer. I never knew i could function properly even after not being able to sleep for 2 days. Never thought running after the kids would be so tiring, let alone being able to do it. That’s not all. What about the emotional and mental strength? Motherhood has surely given me the reality check. Who i really am and what all i can deal with.

Appreciate the small things– we always think that the big life achievements like getting a job, buying a house or car are the most defining life moments. But we forget that the small everyday joys are much more meaningful than the bigger ones. Running after the next big goal or prize, there is no end to it. Just stop for a while, take a deep breath, enjoy the moment you are in, take in all that it has to offer and then move on to the next. The small joys that your children give you, The milestones they achieve, that one smile in the entire day. Even losing that 1 kilo on my weighing scale makes me jump with joy. This is life. These tiny moments is what makes it worth it. Soak them in, and don’t let them slip away.

Patience– i have always been a patient person. But motherhood has always put my patience limits to test. The end result- even more patience. Both my kids test my patience levels everyday, but i don’t budge. I have learnt ways to calm me down. And that really helps in keeping me happy and the household happy as well.

The unnoticed me time– before having kids, all the time i had was ‘me time’. But i never appreciated that time. Now that mommying leaves me with hardly any ‘me time’, i finally appreciate all that time now. Nowadays even going to the nearby grocery store alone is like wow. How i miss having tamed eyebrows and body hair. Visiting a salon has become a luxury nowadays. Finally i have come to appreciate even 15 minutes of me time that i get now. It might even be sitting in the loo scrolling on instagram. It’s necessary to keep me sane.

Accepting failure and forgiveness– in this motherhood journey, failure and success go hand in hand. I fail everyday and I succeed everyday. Motherhood is a trial and error journey i feel. When you fail 10 times, you succeed once. I make mistakes everyday and then i learn from them. But the unconditional love i get from my kids, makes it all worth it. Being a mommy has made me realise my flaws. It brings me face to face with my mistakes everyday. But you know what, we all make mistakes. Parenting is a ever learning process. I don’t need to feel bad about it. Definitely make them but forgive myself and learn from them.

Balance– Mom guilt! Some Things are going to take a backseat, let them. Don’t try to juggle all the balls at the same time. Let one of them fall. Trying to balance everything, makes me miserable and tired. Its ok if i don’t do the laundry one day or if i take the shortcut way to cooking. It’s better to do lesser things efficiently than making a mess of all of them.

Pregnancy and childbirth, WOMEN ISSUES

Post partum depression- something we need to talk more about

Momspresso

Check out this interesting blog post
“Happy & elated yet Sad and Hopeless” by Gayatri Deshmukh.
Read Here: https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/motherly-mess/article/happy-elated-yet-sad-and-hopeless