The #momguilt is taking over.
Living and dealing with one of my biggest MOM GUILT EVER.
And that is MEALS IN FRONT OF THE SCREEN.
I know it's wrong, have always avoided it, was and in fact still is a big no-no in our house. But when your 27 month old refuses to eat even a morsel, you gotta give in. Or at least I did.
So, I know we shouldn't force feed or over feed our kids. But his case is different. It's not that he is not hungry. The thing is whenever he is hungry he is only asking for milk. And this has been going on for over a week now.
I tried rhymes, stories, books, toys even running around, but all in vain.
Finally gave in to the screen. And no he did not demand it. I felt maybe he would eat a little that way..and thankfully he does.
I know I am not going to make it a habit. But yes, until I get his deworming done, I plan to do this only for the main meals. .
The only 2 upsides to it are:
1. He is eating. And so I can eat my food with a peaceful mind.
2. Even if he is watching rhymes, he understands his hunger (thanks to self feeding that we have been following all this while). So he tells me when to stop feeding him.
I know, many of you might judge me for this, might even call me a bad mom. But you know when your kids isn't eating, how can you be at ease. .
I REALLY HOPE HE GETS OVER THIS PHASE SOON AND COMES BACK TO EATING WITH US LIKE BEFORE. AND ALSO THAT I GET RELIEVED OF MY #momguilt
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Birthday party, wedding celebrations, anniversaries, pro.otion parties, baby showers, house warming etc.etc.etc.
So many occassions and festivals to celebrate and be a part of and everytime I am in a fix when it comes to gifting. Even if it's for family and loved ones. And many a times we gift and receive gifts that are either of no use to us or not of our choice. Like for example, I received 3 dinner sets in my wedding gifts and it's been 8 years of being married and I have used only one. The other are just stocked away to be used once in 2 years.
To tackle this situation, I started gifting cash and gift cards so as to not put others In the same situation and also so that they could buy things of their choice.
Me and my girl gang have a girls night every month at one of our houses. This month it's my turn. The other day my friends were asking me what do I want as a gift. And that's when I thought of @wishtryindia. The perfect and most practical gifting platform. Create your wishlist according to your wants and needs and share it with your friends and family. This way they know what you want and you are happier about receiving them. So, I shared my wishlist with my friends and now I am happy that I will receive exactly what I want.
Some people might this concept weird. As in how can you ask people to gift what you want or need. I would say, instead of passing on a gift to someone else because you already have it or you do not want it. Isn't it better to ask for what you actually need. The love of the giver and the receiver remains the same, intact even better.
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Dream job. Happy family. Lovely children.
Yet I am unhappy. I feel useless, helpless and sad. I feel lost. This is how Rita felt. She didn't feel like talking to anybody. Rita was depressed.
Sadly, even if things have changed in the past few years, talking about #mentalhealth is still a no-no. Somehow, Rita started visiting a counsellor. She looked forward to her sessions. It was a place where she would just be Rita and she wont be judged, not even by herself.
While writing this post, I realized that we women often do this ourselves. More than the people around us, it is we ourselves who stretch it to that point of feeling helpless. We want ourselves to excel in every role that we play. Everything in our house has to be perfect, the house has to be mess free all the time and the food has to be finger licking good always. These are the pressures that we set for ourselves.
We know what we are expected of and we burden those expectations on ourselves. Been there, done that! But you know what? Its now that I have come to realise, that “Its OK to make mistakes. Its OK if the food isn’t good one day, Its OK if the house is messy and Its OK to not excel at every project that you take up at work. Lastly ITS OK TO NOT BE OK.
Feeling depressed, useless, helpless is a part of our lives just like being happy and elated is. But what matters is to get out of that feeling, to forgive yourself for all your imperfections and to not expect a lot from yourself. You are a human too, do not over burden yourselves with your own expectations.
Stop exhausting yourself from trying to be stronger than you feel. Mental pain is less dramatic and visible than physical pain, but it more common and even harder to bear. The frequent attempt to conceal it, increases the burden. Talk about it, scream and yell if you want to, but stop saying ‘I am fine’. The only thing exhausting than being depressed, is pretending that you are not.