Parenthood

The better half..

These days we see a lot many men helping their wives at home or with housework. They are being more involved in the household work. It is not like the olden days, where the only role of a man played was of bread winner. Why do you think this scenario is changing? Or why didnt this scenario exist then?

I feel the important thing is to let the men help with the household chores. Do not criticize their efforts. That would discourage them easily to not try at all.  A lot many men fall short of being involved  because they dont know how. Sometimes we women underestimate the capabilities our husband’s possess. It is important to trust them. Maybe they wont do it up to our mark/ expectation, but we should let them try and appreciate them for it. That’s when they will take the initiative to be more involved. In today’s generation fathers play an important role in raising responsible adults. He cares, teaches, provides, forgives and protects. There is no doubt that the kids need their moms more but they equally need their dad.

My mother often tells me that i am ucky to have a husband who helps out with the house work and the kids. Yes, he is an amazing father and husband. He is equally involved in the house and our kid’s lives. But the important part is, he wants to be! In today’s generation if it is important for both the husband and wife to be working, then so is both of their involvement in parenting.

My husband being in the defense services, we are always on the move. It is not possible for us to be with our parents all the time and even for them to be around always. In this scenario it is really important for both of us to share all the responsibilities. It is important to work as a team. Being in a indian setup there are some chores that i wont be talking about like doing the dishes, sweeping, mopping, dusting and maybe laundry as here we mostly have maids to do these chores. But following are the chores that i feel the husbands can be helpful with.

  • The husband can sometimes share the cooking duties with you. Maybe you can decide the days each of you would be cooking.
  • You both can take turns with the kids homework and schoolwork. Even taking them out for various hobby classes.
  • Take turns in looking after the kids when either of you is at the gym. Parenthood doesn’t leave us with much time on our hands, and then the fitness takes a backseat. But this is how you both can work it out. And thats what we have been doing for all these months.
  • If you are a SAHM, then ofcourse you will be responsible for the parenting duties during the day. So, let your husband take over these duties after his work hours or on weekends. This will allow you to have some “me time”, which is very important for your sanity.
  • They can take turns waking up with the kids, playing with them, in the bedtime routines or getting them ready for school.
  • He can come along with you to run errands like grocery shopping or mall visits. Or even better if he dives in to do it on his own.

Every household is different and so are the chores. It is not necessary that what Husband A does, should be done by Husband B as well. Maybe Husband B is better at other chores. The basic idea is to trust them and let them help around. Let them help with what they are good at. It might not be perfect but the efforts and willingness count.

These days our lives are so busy.. There are so many things on our mind. We strive to do what is best for us and our family. So, if you need help from your better half, ask him for it. Tell him that is expected to do that. Remember it is a teamwork and not a single player game. So work it out together. In the long run, it is beneficial for all including your kids.

To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be present in their today”- source google.