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Falling in love with yourself.

Every time we talk about love, we think about loving someone or something. A friend, fiancé, spouse, parents, books, a place, a dish, sunsets, sunrises and the list is endless. But how often is it that we think about loving our own selves? Is loving someone else easier than falling in love with yourself?

It is thought of that finding the right partner completes us, he/she fills that empty space in our hearts and rids us of our problems. But when we come to think of it, it’s the exact opposite. You yourself have to do all of that.

So what Does loving thyself mean? Is it about the looks or is it about Your nature?

To me, loving yourself means appreciating your capabilities, knowing your worth and accepting your flaws. It is to cater to our own needs and not wait for someone else to do that. It is to realize your strengths and weaknesses, chase your dreams and to forgive yourself for your mistakes and failures. For once. Make yourself a priority.

As Samantha Jones from SATC said- “I love you..But I love me more. I have been in a relationship with myself for 49 years and that’s the one I need to work one.”

Here’s a list of ways that might make you fall in love with yourself.

Working out: Yes! You heard it right. Personally, I have never been comfortable in my body. I have always been on the heavier side (thanks to the hormones and genetics). I would always want to wear clothes from all the aisles in the mall. But more than half of the times, they didn’t fit me. I have been through the worst phase of PCOD too (it just added on to all of that). Working out is not just about burning calories, it is about investing time in yourself. Work on yourself, develop a healthy lifestyle, have healthy food. I mean, how can you not love yourself when you are taking such good care of “U”.

Look back on your achievements: Take out your old certificates and trophies and remind yourself of what you are capable of. It will give you that feeling, no one or nothing else can.

Maintain a diary/journal: Its like talking to yourself. Everyday write something nice about yourself. One positive character in you. Note down your daily achievements. It might be as Simple as completing your to do list. But that will definitely make you pat your back and feel proud of yourself.

No comparison: Never compare yourself to others. Every one faces a different set of challenges. And so different failures and successes. Never think of yourself to be less than the other person.

Self trust: This is very very important. We all dislike people who lie to us or let us down. But knowingly or unknowingly, we often do that to ourselves. Trust yourself, trust your judgement, your decision, trust yourself that you can sail through this difficult time. Remind yourself of times you have done that in the past. Be true to yourself.

Pamper yourself: Go to the spa, go shopping. Dress up, put some makeup on and take yourself for a movie/ dinner date. If you look good to yourself, you are more likely to fall in love with “U”. It is absolutely OK to splurge and indulge in yourself once in a while. This is a great way to show yourself some love. Something you will be glad about later. I had this friend who used to go the mall, try on some clothes in the trial room, take pictures and feel happy. Sometimes you just need to step out, get some fresh air, clear your head and remind yourself of who you are and what you wanna be.

Hobbies: Work on things you like to do. This is a great way to spend some quality ‘me’ time and concentrate on yourself. When you do something you love, you will definitely love the person doing it.

Surround yourself with positive people: Declutter. Just remove all the negativity from your life. People, things, unwanted stuff. Be with people who uplift you, who know you for the good in you. People who have been with you through your past achievements, and who can remind you about your capabilities and capacities. These people are your mirrors. Look at yourself through their eyes.

Improvement: Work on things you have wanted to improve. Like losing weight, getting fit, drinking more water in a day, eat healthy, not losing your temper, saying yes to everything and everyone, planning your day. It might be anything, depends from person to person. Remind yourself of the end result and how it is going to make you a better person.

Do a noble cause: Doing something for the society like a charity or blood donation will Definitely give you a feel good feeling about yourself.

Me time: go on a solo trip, sit back and relax with that cuppa, read a book.

Let go of the past: The more you hold on to it, the more you poison yourself.

Be adventurous: Do things out of your comfort zone, something you have never tried before or never even thought of. You will get to know yourself more. And it definitely will be positive.

Loving yourself is very important for a happy you. And a happy you is mandatory for building happy relationships and a happier life. You deserve the kind of love you would give to someone else.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong relationship”- Oscar Wilde

Product reviews

Dealing with the mosquito menace

It feels great to see our kids sleep in peace. But sometimes this beauty sleep is disturbed by them mosquitoes, gnats and flies. We feel that inside our homes, the kids are safe from all of them. But in reality, these little monsters are hiding away in all the corners of the house. I could see mosquito bites on my kids Hands and legs even while playing inside the house or even after waking up in the morning. A lot many times even when my daughter comes back from school, she has bites on her face and legs. Earlier I was applying the repellant only while going outdoors, but now I do so even when inside the house. We reduced our park trips due to this menace.
My search for the best mosquito repellant led me to buying products from these brands. I had been using odomos till now, but it wasn’t that effective in keeping the mosquitoes and gnats at bay. So we finally ordered our mosquito repellant patches, fabric roll on and spray from @mamaearth.in and goodnight. Today I will be reviewing them both for you.

Goodnight:

1. Fabric roll on– It contains natural oils like citronella oil and eucalyptus oil. It is to be applied as coin sized dots on the fabric on both the shoulders and legs. I have recently started using this fabric roll on my MIL’s advice. I must say it gives a fairly good protection. Though it doesn’t work for 8 hours as claimed, it gives protection for upto 5 to 6 hours. One downside of it is that it has a strong smell. So it might be troublesome and kids might dislike it. Overall if I have to rate, I would give it a 3.5/5. Will I but it again? Maybe.

2. Repellant patches- Its contents are same as the fabric roll on. The patch can be applied on the clothes, strollers and cots. When applying on the clothes, apply one each on the upper and lower body. First off, it doesn’t stick too well. My 18 month old easily removed it. It also has a strong smell. And it also doesn’t give protection for 8 hours. It works for roughly 5 hours. I would rate it 3.5/5. Will I buy it again? No. I think there are other better options.

Mamaearth:

1. Natural mosquito repellant spray– it is 100% natural and DEET free. It contains natural oils like cold pressed castor oil and soybean oil, and essential oils like citronella oil, cedar oil, rosemary oil, lemongrass oil and peppermint oil. The best part is, it is easy to apply as it is in a spray bottle form. So u need to spray it directly on to the skin and then just spread it. It has a mild smell and is not irritating for the kids. Also, it gives protection for a good 10 to 12 hours. I would definitely rate it 4.5/5 and yes I am definitely buying this again.

2. Repellant patches– its contents are same as the repellant spray. It also is 100% natural and DEET free. It claims to protect from even dengue, malaria and chikungunya. It can be pasted on to the cot, pram, school bag and clothes. And it is also waterproof. So not to worry even during rains. This also gives around 10 to 12 hours of protection. The stick is pretty good. The kids will require an effort to remove it, so that’s a plus point. I would rate it a 4.5/5 and would definitely but them again.
So in a gist, I am liking all the above products except the good night repellant patches. I got them on amazon.in and nykaa.

P.S. THATS A NON WORKING PHONE IN HIS HAND, HE WONT LET GO OFF..

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