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Nap nap mat- putting your baby to sleep made easy.

There is one thing that every mother dreams about. “Someone putting her baby to sleep while she catches up on her sleep as well”. It takes us at least half an hour to feed the baby and then another half an hour to put then to sleep and by the time We think of relaxing a bit, its wake up time for the little one. Motherhood is beautiful, but at the same time its tiring and exhausting. March 2018 I had my younger one and I don’t remember sleeping for 6 hours straight since then. How we wish if we could put the little ones to sleep in a jiffy.

This is when THE NAP NAP MAT comes to our rescue.
It can be used for newborns to kids 2 years old.

A super soft outer cover made up of Egyptian cotton for your baby to nap.

It is extremely light, can be folded easily and is travel friendly as well. It comes in a cloth bag making storage easy.

You can place it on the bed, in the crib, carry your baby in it while breast feeding, can use it for air travel as well, can also be placed in a bassinet, stroller, pram, car seat and sling.

It has 6 modes of vibration to soothe your little one. 1 to 4 progressive frequency modes and 2 heartbeat modes. The modes and vibration vary according to the age of the baby. And it has a special mode (mode 4) for expecting moms as well. Especially for moms in their 3rd trimester to relieve their back and leg pain.
The vibrations work for 15 hours straight on a single charge. It has a auto cut off mode as well, wherein the vibrations wont work when charging. Also, the mat stops vibrating after 20 minutes of continuous use. So no chance of any harm to the baby.

It maintains the good posture of the baby, is durable, PUC free, radiation free and cordless.
And if that was not all, it is waterproof as well. So cleaning it is super easy. You just need a moist cloth/ wet wipes.

Wait!!! That’s not all. USE MY SPECIAL PROMO CODE “NAPGAYATRI10” to avail a 10% discount on your purchase.

How I wish I had this during both my pregnancies . Dealing with the back pain and sleepless nights during kids sickness would have been so much better.
So, what are you waiting for, go get your very own nap nap mat now and catch up on some much needed rest and me time.

BECAUSE SLEEP IS IMPORTANT.

Parenthood

The 3 magical words..

As parents, it is our responsibility to teach them about good manners, so as to make them respectful individuals. Today’s post is about the three 3 magic words that we need to teach our kids so as to raise helpful and grateful individuals.

We as parents do everything in our power to fulfill our child’s needs & wants, no matter big or small. Our parents did the same for us. But wouldnt it be nice to express a polite and grateful attitude in return. They do everything to make our life happy, content & comfortable. However, sometimes uternknowingly, kids fail to acknowledge their efforts. Especially kids this generation. They get everything even before asking for it. We often overlook their mistakes saying its Ok, he/ she is a child. But somewhere all of this is leading them to ignore/ not know the importance of these magic words. The best any person can show gratitude towards someone’s efforts is by using these 3 words- SORRY, PLEASE AND THANK YOU.

Now, why really is it necessary to learn these mannerisms.

  • For better interaction/ communication with peers and everyone else. So better social inclusion.
  • They change the perception people have about us/ positive reaction.
  • Increases level of socializatio and hence helps in better adapting to environment and surroundings.

Teaching these values requires patience, efforts and preseverance. You need to repeat them again & again for it to become a habit. It is important that we teach them that all relationships work by the give & take policy. And that this is the best way to give in return. To begin with we need to teach them the meaning of these words. Why and where are they to be used.


THANK YOU– Shows gratitude towards generosity. It is a hallmark of civility. It will teach them to be grateful and will help them value other’s efforts.
PLEASE– teaches respect. We have to tell them that they need to use PLEASE whenever they need a favor. That they can get something only if asked respectfully. Let them understand that others have the right to share or not. It expresses both respect & consideration, changing a command into a request.
SORRY– To teach them to recognize their mistakes and work towards correcting them. It is an act of courtsey and maturity. It is one of the simplest way to end volatile fights. One should take responsibility for their actions. Also, it is one of the simpleast way to express sympathy & regret.

Now comes the how to..?

  1. Lead by example– this is the best way to teach. We all know children learn more by observing. Use them in your daily conversations with your children, friends & family.
  2. Learn with fun– device a fun way to teach them the relationship between good manners and positive outcomes. Teach them through games, stories, songs or role play.
  3. Make them feel– I kow some of you might not agree with this. But kids learn a lot of things through practical demonstrations. So once in a while let them feel how not using these words develops hurt and negativity.

There is a chapter in my daughter’s english textbook called “The Magic Tree’ which talks about a boy and a tree and these words. At the end of the lesson there is this beautiful quote, which actually inspired me to write this post. It goes-

It is often said that a man’s true character/ worth is measured by how he makes use of these three words.”

Parenthood

The better half..

These days we see a lot many men helping their wives at home or with housework. They are being more involved in the household work. It is not like the olden days, where the only role of a man played was of bread winner. Why do you think this scenario is changing? Or why didnt this scenario exist then?

I feel the important thing is to let the men help with the household chores. Do not criticize their efforts. That would discourage them easily to not try at all.  A lot many men fall short of being involved  because they dont know how. Sometimes we women underestimate the capabilities our husband’s possess. It is important to trust them. Maybe they wont do it up to our mark/ expectation, but we should let them try and appreciate them for it. That’s when they will take the initiative to be more involved. In today’s generation fathers play an important role in raising responsible adults. He cares, teaches, provides, forgives and protects. There is no doubt that the kids need their moms more but they equally need their dad.

My mother often tells me that i am ucky to have a husband who helps out with the house work and the kids. Yes, he is an amazing father and husband. He is equally involved in the house and our kid’s lives. But the important part is, he wants to be! In today’s generation if it is important for both the husband and wife to be working, then so is both of their involvement in parenting.

My husband being in the defense services, we are always on the move. It is not possible for us to be with our parents all the time and even for them to be around always. In this scenario it is really important for both of us to share all the responsibilities. It is important to work as a team. Being in a indian setup there are some chores that i wont be talking about like doing the dishes, sweeping, mopping, dusting and maybe laundry as here we mostly have maids to do these chores. But following are the chores that i feel the husbands can be helpful with.

  • The husband can sometimes share the cooking duties with you. Maybe you can decide the days each of you would be cooking.
  • You both can take turns with the kids homework and schoolwork. Even taking them out for various hobby classes.
  • Take turns in looking after the kids when either of you is at the gym. Parenthood doesn’t leave us with much time on our hands, and then the fitness takes a backseat. But this is how you both can work it out. And thats what we have been doing for all these months.
  • If you are a SAHM, then ofcourse you will be responsible for the parenting duties during the day. So, let your husband take over these duties after his work hours or on weekends. This will allow you to have some “me time”, which is very important for your sanity.
  • They can take turns waking up with the kids, playing with them, in the bedtime routines or getting them ready for school.
  • He can come along with you to run errands like grocery shopping or mall visits. Or even better if he dives in to do it on his own.

Every household is different and so are the chores. It is not necessary that what Husband A does, should be done by Husband B as well. Maybe Husband B is better at other chores. The basic idea is to trust them and let them help around. Let them help with what they are good at. It might not be perfect but the efforts and willingness count.

These days our lives are so busy.. There are so many things on our mind. We strive to do what is best for us and our family. So, if you need help from your better half, ask him for it. Tell him that is expected to do that. Remember it is a teamwork and not a single player game. So work it out together. In the long run, it is beneficial for all including your kids.

To be in your children’s memories tomorrow, you have to be present in their today”- source google.

Parenthood

Kids helping with household chores

Every household has this discussion of whether and when to involve the kids with the household chores. A coin has both sides. There are people who feel it is best to start and teach them young and there are people who believe in letting them enjoy their childhood till it lasts.

I, happen to be one of those who believe that it is best to teach them young. It’s never too early to get your child involved in the household chores. It is best to lay the foundation for skills useful later in life. It is necessary for them to learn that it is part of daily life and that everyone needs to contribute in running a household. After all, these life skills are necessary when they have their own house, job and start their own family. It might be something very small, but it will teach them to cooperate with others and that helping around the house is important. Kids always copy what mommy and daddy do. So what better way to teach them by example and by starting young. It helps to build their confidence. And yes, don’t forget to praise them plenty, for all their efforts.

Here I have mentioned a few chores that kids of respective ages can help with. There is no hard and fast rule, chores can be different according to every household. This is just a general idea I have in mind.

  • Young kids (around 5 years old) can help with folding small clothes, keeping things (especially their toys) in place, setting up the table at meal times, they can help in making the bed like placing the pillows and sheets, wiping surfaces, serving their own food, handing out clothes while hanging the laundry and throwing the trash. It is best to start with things that they can relate to. Don’t look for perfection. Their effort and willingness to help is what matters.
  • A little older kids (7 to 9 years) can help with dressing themselves up, packing their lunch box and water bottle, setting up their school bag, keeping away their school bag and shoes, sorting everyone’s clothes in different piles, polishing their own school shoes, cleaning up the table after mealtimes, watering the plants and feeding the pet.
  • Once the kids enter their teens, they would like more responsible work. For them it’s more of being part of the real life than just play. Like grocery shopping, cook simple meals, walk the dog, or taking care of the pet, help their younger siblings with schoolwork, baby sit the younger ones when parents are out, mow the lawn they can even help with the laundry, sweeping /mopping/ vacuuming, and wash the utensils. They can even earn some pocket money this way. In fact, in the western countries, teenagers even take up part time or weekend or vacation jobs to earn that extra pocket money or maybe contribute to household finances. This will help improving their confidence, self-esteem, problem solving skills and self-reliance.

 

Remember:

  • Let them help as soon as you think they are ready.
  • Initially make it fun.
  • Remember to do it as a team.
  • Encourage and praise them for however small their effort.
  • Reward them with whatever you feel is ok.
  • Never use it as a punishment.
  • And most important. All chores have to be gender neutral. Learning to cook and do the laundry is equally important for boys as is learning to wash their car for girls.

 

Parenthood

The Perfect MOM

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Perfect parenting. What is this all about? Why does a mother feel so pressurised about her parenting skills? This is something that has been bothering me ever since I had my first child. Recently I came across this article on google, titled “how you can be a perfect mother”? I mean what? We are humans too. How the hell can you expect us to be perfect? And who are you to decide what perfection is?

Every mother, does everything she can, in the best interest of her child. Her major part of the day revolves around her children. We breathe and live for our children’s well-being. We want our children to be successful and happy. And we would do everything in our power for that.

Every mother may have a different parenting style, but the end result will always be the same. Why do we doubt our decisions? The most common topics that doubt our perfect parenting are: breastfeeding (I don’t even want to start on that), screen time, treats, processed or jarred or canned food, the number of extracurricular activities (I mean seriously?), early schooling, day care, messy house, this list is endless.

We mothers experience the strongest pressures of being the perfect parents. Why are we being judged so much? Why do I have to worry from the minute we wake up until we go back to bed?

There are certain things that I need to remind myself every day. I am doing the best I can. My kids have clean clothes to wear, food to eat, we enjoyed some nice cuddle time before getting started for the day, they had play time at the park, they had their mommy and daddy when they needed them and we had a dance party just because we felt like.

Maybe I couldn’t breastfeed my child, but why does that give you the right to judge me. Do you know what problems I went through? So, what if I let them watch TV or tablet for some time because I needed to get some work done or maybe catch up on a little sleep. so, what that I gave them store bought cookies once in a while. so, what if I haven’t filled out their baby albums even once, so what if I have toys everywhere around in my house. The more important thing is I was there for all their milestones. I was there when they needed a hug or wanted to listen to “I love you” 100 times a day. I was there when they needed help with their school work. I was there when they sprouted their first tooth or when it fell, I was there when they took their first steps. The more important thing is that they know that I will always be there to empathise with them, to make them feel warm and loved, to trust them, to hold their hands and have their backs when they need it.

The irony of all this is that, in seeking perfection in parenting, our parenting has become less effective. All this worrying, lowers my self confidence as mother, leading to less enjoyable and more stressful parenting.

Parenting is all about the “how” than the “what”. Its about how we are sensitive and in tune with our child’s needs. How we inculcate independence and happiness in our children. As I read somewhere, “there is no way to be a perfect mother, but a million ways to be a good one”.