self care, Uncategorized, WOMEN ISSUES

Cause that’s perfect to me..

It brings me immense pleasure to share that I, along with 30 other bloggers are celebrating Women’s Day with a twist.
I thank Revati bhushan who blogs at http://www.mommysmusings.in for introducing me. She is a soft skills trainer turned blogger and enjoys being a SAHM.

I would also take the opportunity to introduce Pamela Sarkar who blogs at http://www.improvandexplore.com. She is efficiently juggling being a full time mom and a blogger as well.

Our society presents and views the physical body in a particular way. Their definition of perfection is what we see on social media. That satiny flawless skin, zero figure, the perfect haircut and hair colour and all that wide range of clothes. Many of us end up comparing ourselves to whatever we see on the TV, and the most common comparison being the shape and size of the body. Whenever we glance through the magazines or even look at our friends/ neighbours, we think that is how i want to be. And we set “that” as our goal.

#bodypositivity was a movement started with the goal that all humans should have a positive body image. The goal of the movement is to address the unrealistic beauty standards and build the confidence of oneself and others. It focuses on self- acceptance, beauty and self- esteem. Seeing all those models makes us lose our self- confidence and we end up not loving ourselves as much as we should and not accepting our physical traits.

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I believe there is a very thin line between working on correcting your flaws and changing yourself completely. You should definitely work on losing all the extra weight that you have, but you cannot change your body structure. Anatomy is permanent. I feel sad for girls who get ‘n’ number of cosmetic surgeries done and go to extremes like rib removal to look like what, A DOLL? I mean thats a doll, its not real. People inject their lips with what not, because they want them look like a particular hero/ heroine.

YOU ARE YOU AND THATS WHAT MAKES YOU UNIQUE. Since when have we forgotten THAT!!!! You were born to be real and not perfect. And who decides the definition of perfection? To me perfection is just a myth. What is perfect to me might not be to you and vice versa. Doesnt mean we change ourselves because the other thinks otherwise.

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Having toned abs is cool,

No abs? even cool.

A perkier butt gets a wow,

a smaller butt? not cool, but how?

Perfect curves, and perfectly lean

smirking at something otherwise..So mean!!

Everyone has flaws and everyone is imperfect. Wouldnt we be gods if we were so perfect? Yes, i am overweight, i do not have the perfect skin, neither do i have the perfect looks. But I love my body. I accept my body the way it is. I know i need to get in shape according to my height stats but I am not going to change it to look like someone else’s. I even have stretch marks. SO what??? I am proud of them. I have given birth to two children and I have earned those stripes. I wouldnt feel ashamed of showing them off. Real breasts arent identical, real butts have stretch marks and real skin has freckles & scars. But according to me that is what makes it beautiful. Tell me, what looks better, a blank canvas or one with lines and colours on it?

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Everybody has a different body type, different body metabolism, totally different lifestyles and life priorities. Always remember, you can or rather you should be a better version of yourself and not of someone else. I have been struggling to lose weight ever since i remember. I have always been on the heavier side but thats how my body is. I cannot reduce my butt to a certain size because you think i should. My natural anatomical structure is broad and no matter what I CANNOT THAT!!! After trying many diets and workout routine, it is now that i know what works best for me and body. And YES, IT TAKES TIME. Remember, Rome wasnt built in a day. MAybe you lose weight and inches easily, but i dont and you cannot body shame me for that.

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” You are too curvy, you need to lose weight. You are too skinny, you have no curves. Your skin is dull and oily. Why do you have pimples and acne on your skin?”. “Maybe, you are too judgemental and you need to shut up!!!!”

STOP LOOKING FOR PERFECT BODIES, INSTEAD LOOK FOR PURE HEARTS.


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I LOVE ME- THE WAY I AM BORN

It brings me immense pleasure to share that I, along with 30 other bloggers are celebrating Women’s Day with a twist.
I thank Revati bhushan who blogs at http://www.mommysmusings.in for introducing me. She is a soft skills trainer turned blogger and enjoys being a SAHM.

I would also take the opportunity to introduce Pamela Sarkar who blogs at http://www.improvandexplore.com. She is efficiently juggling being a full time mom and a blogger as well.

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I believe, self love is the most important form of love. To me loving yourself means appreciating your capabilities, knowing your worth and accepting your flaws. It is to cater to your own needs, to realise your strengths & weaknesses, to chase your dreams and to forgive yourself for your mistakes & failures.

Flashback to the time, when people told my mom that she should have looked at herself more in the mirror during her pregnancy so that i would have better features (i was born dark with a flat nose you see). Some even teased her that the nurse exchanged her baby at the hospital.

For the major part of my school life, i have had friends tell me that i shouldnt wear bright colours as they do not suit my dusky complexion. That i shouldnt wear skirts and dresses because that didnt suit my fat body. That i should have a certain haircut because it makes my face look leaner. Peer pressure strikes you bad. The fear of being left out makes you do things that you do not want to. I stopped wearing bright colours, jeans and t- shirts were all that i wore. My mom has always tried to instill self love in me, but all i could say to her was that my choices had changed.

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Fast forward to college life, which is even harder. Its like all that people do is judge you. They continuosly criticize you. Thats when i realised that people are <em>double dholki</em>. They are going to say things no matter what. And that they are never going to love me, whatsoever happens. I was at a constant battle inside. I was unhappy, sad and frustrated and that had to change. Thats when i understood the meaning and importance of self love.

You give so much love to everyone around, give some to yourself too. Accept yourself- others wont and do not need to. Love yourself the way you want others to love you. You will give love only if you have love within you.

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I know, i am not perfect, I know i have flaws and i know that i make mistakes. But I also know that, thats how God wanted me to be and I love myself for all of that. I love my flaws, because they give me a reason to improve. I love making mistakes, which means i have a chance to correct them. To you, i may be fat, but to me I am curvy. And I love my body as it is. It is nature’s handiwork and I dont want to critique that.

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5 most effective ways to practise self love:

Working out- invest in your body. Eat right, exercise enough and polish that masterpiece created by god. When you spend so much time on your body, you can hardly hate it. Oh and working out gives you great skin too.

Reflect- look back on your achievements. All those certificates and trophies you won in school, college etc. Remind yourself you are all of that. Surround yourself with people who will remind you of all those things. Be with people who bring you joy.

Self- Praise- Stand in front of the mirror first thing in the morning and say 2 good things about yourself. Trust me you will have a happy day. Trust yourself that you can sail through and survive the difficult times.

No comparison- Never ever compare yourself to others. You are two different individuals, you are meant to have different personalities. You are you, and thats your super- power.

Me time- take yourself out on a date, catch a movie with yourself, splurge on clothes and be the foodie that you are. For once, make yourself a priority and see the magic happen.

You know what myfavourite quote is?

“I love you, but I love me more. I have been in a relationship with myself for 49 years and thats the one i need to focus on”.. – Samantha Jones from SATC

Here’s a few lines from me:

love yourself for who you are, and not what others want you to be.

love your inner self, and not just the outer you that people see.

Know your strengths, know your worth,

There is a reason, you have taken birth.

Love yourself so fiercely

that you do not need someone else to love you…

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Essence of being a woman & a SAHM..

I LOVE BEING A WOMAN!!!

because… it gives me the opportunity to play so many roles in a lifetime. It gives me the self confidence that whatever I do is for the good. It gives me the power to make my own choices and to believe in & stand up for myself.

Being a woman is divine. It is a god’s gift and i truly & completely appreciate that. I am proud of the person that I am. I feel so happy about how far i have come from within. I thank god to give me the strength to be a good human being at all times. I cherish the real me & unique me. And I love the bright & shiny inner me.

I am responsible and take my own decisions. My life My choices- I have the confidence to lead and not just follow. I embrace my feminity as it is. Too thin or too fat do not define me. I am strong and powerful. Never challenge my strength. I can life 50 kgs at the gym as efficiently as the family’s emotional load. As i read somewhere ” Women have a great natural and at time supernatural ability to sustain & uphold, to encourage & carry on. Women are healers & nurturers, and answer & salve to the man’s strength and violence, a softness in reply to the rough hardness of men”.

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My intuition is stronger than any man- because i am sensitive & i can connect. I possess the ability to love and care for anyone & everyone and to be loved back too. I am proud of all the roles that i play in my life- a doting daughter, caring sister, a dedicated wife and a responsible mother. But the role that gives me immense joy and satisfaction is the role i play as a mother. Like many of you, I never thought of myself as just a housewife and mother. I was very much certain that my career will be the greater part of my identity. But today, I realise and I know for sure that being a SAHM (stay-at-home-mother) is by far the best decision i have made.

So lets bust some myths about being a SAHM.

  1. First of all, and the most important- IT WASN’T A COMPROMISE OR SACRIFICE ( as many of my friends, who are concentrating more on their careers think it is). It would come as a surprise and shock to all of them that “I CHOSE MY KIDS OVER MY CAREER”. For me, spending quality & quantity time with them is more important at this point of time. I believe, a child needs its mother the most in the initial years and I decided to give my children all the time they needed. Some might even judge me as being conservative or old fashioned. But hey! that doesnt bother me. I know what works best for my family. download (1)
  2. No me time- Infact, staying at home gives me more time for myself than i had when i was working (another shocker right? Yes, i was working after my elder kid turned 3 years old. Yes, i enjoyed my work and yes. But as they say you cannot have it all. Working 8 hours a day didnt leave me with enough time for my child and she made sure to show that. So, when i conceived the second time, the decision was mad). Now, whenever my kids are napping or out playing or with their dad, thats all me time. I can do whatever i want to and trust me it helps keep me sane.
  3. Financially dependent- Well, i wouldnt call myself financially dependent. Yes, maybe i do not earn as much as my husband (Yes, do make some money through my blog), but my husband has never made me feel as if i am dependent on him. It is me who takes all the decisions regarding the household, the kids etc. He has never questioned me regarding any of that and that itself gives me the feeling of being independent. I am in- charge of the household finances. download (2)
  4. Less challenges- Let me tell you, blogging is very challenging. You need to visible in the social world, and that takes a lot of effort. I have a dedicated corner in my house for my blogging work and yes we do have deadlines as well. But unlike many, i have the added advantage of working from my own comfort zone and according to my wish. And most importantly, i get to follow my passion- which many of us cant and sometimes it takes a back seat as a hobby.

In a nutshell, Being a SAHM is a large part of my identity as a woman. And ai am glad that i get to give it my 100% and that I get to do my job efficiently and with pleasure.

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“It takes someone really brave to be a mother, someone strong to raise a child and someone special to love someone more than herself- and thats what defines a MOTHER and a WOMAN”.

This post is a part of Mom’sspeakup blog train hosted by Prisha from mummasaurus.com and Nayantara from mommyingbabyt.com

I want to say a big thank you to Aashiqa raweez for introducing me. Read up her post on being a woman here 👉 https://ummafafsblog.com/2019/03/06/an-early-mother/for introducing me.

And want to introduce Ravijot Kaur. Head over to her blog 👉 http://shiningshower.com/2019/03/fun-facts-of-single-motherhood/ on how she enjoys motherhood.

Hop on their blogs and do read their amazing blogs.

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Parenthood, Uncategorized

Surviving travelling with kids #superbloggerchallenge #instacuppa

Travelling with kids can seem tedious. It might even be scary for some. I myself used to dread travelling with the kids. In a nutshell, we have hardly taken any trips after having kids. But following certain things has helped us a lot. Sharing them with you all in this post. I wont be covering points like hotel booking etc, as these are already well planned. Well you cant travel last minute with your kids can you?

AIR TRAVEL

Flight timings– Preferably fly during the child’s nap time. You can even try catching the early morning or late night flights. As the kids just want to sleep that time. And dont bother changing their sleepsuits, they are going to sleep anyways.

Clothing- Now this makes a big difference. Wear them in soft, light breathable clothes. You want them to be comfortable. Always keep a t-shirt or two or a jacket handy, if they feel cold. Layering up is easy. Clothing should be easy to don and doff as well. Saves a lot of time during loo visits (inflight and on the airport). Also avoid shoes with laces. Instead opt for shoes with velcro straps or even better slip ons. These things even make security checks easier.

Strollers & Carriers- Keep these handy. You can ditch your regular big stroller for the smaller travel friendly version. And yes, you are allowed to carry them on flight. If you are baby wearing parents, then carriers and slings are even better. In case of infants, i would recommend baby wearing. Keeping them close to you helps reduce their anxiety and stress free travel. And in case of toddlers, who want to runaway everywhere, you can try on the kid harness/ leash. I know some of you might not like the idea, but do whatever keeps your kids safe and makes travel easy.

Busy bag- Now even if it is an 2 hour flight, and in case your kid doesnt sleep, you will need to keep him busy. Kids hate being restricted to one place. For toddlers the magnetic doodle pads are a great option, or board books, and some papers and colours. For elder kids story books, colouring, rubik’s cube, 3D cube maze puzzle box, hand held plastic dexterity moveable squares puzzle, word search booklet, magnetic board games etc. And sometimes you might want to give them that ipad, or phone as a last resort. In that case do not forget to load them with their fav shows or rhymes before leaving home.

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Snacks- Mostly airlines serve snacks no matter how short the flight time. But you might want to keep spme of their fav snacks handy.

Pack light- Remember you have to carry all that luggage on and off the flight. So pack wisely. Disposable diapers can be bought anywhere, so do not carry a whole pack of it. And if you are used to a particular brand, then try some other easily available brand for a few days before travel.

Lastly, air travel with kids has its own perks. Like priority in security checks, passenger lines, helper staff etc. PLease dont hesitate to use them.

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CAR TRAVEL

Most of the pointers are same for both kinds of travel, so jotting down pointers only specific to car travels here.

Car seat- It took me 5 years to convince my family to get a car seat. Finally we got one after we had our second child. Trust me, even if the journey is for a few hours or an entire day, carrying your lil one is neither easy for you nor comfortable for the child. They stay at ease in a car seat, plus they can sleep in it comfortably as well. And then there’s the added advantage of safety, because you cannot wear a seat belt over your child when you carry them.

Car seat organizer- Being on the co- driver seat shuffling through the diaper bag on the rear seat can be uncomfortable. Better to have a organizer hanging at the back of the driver’s seat. Stuff it with all the things you might need like, wipes, tissues, some snacks, hand towels, handy games for the kids etc. Grabbing things from it is much easier.

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Busy bag- In addition to the above mentioned options, try out the printable activities for kids. These are very useful in keeping them busy.

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Sickness bags- These are useful for all. We faced motion sickness problems with our 18 month old son last year, so sickness bags is a must. Now, they might not puke into the bag all of a sudden, so make sure to teach them to do that a few days before travelling.

Water- Pack atleast one bottle per person. Opt for re- usable ones instead of the disposable ones.

Coolers- In case you want to carry food for the kids. I usually, just carry snacks. Whenever, we stop for a food break i opt for options like idli, dosa, sandwiches for the kids, as these are all freshky made. Ideal snacks to carry would be nuts, dried & dehydrated fruits, fruits like banana, apple, pear, oranges, bag of chips, homemade cookies and homemade cake.

Trash bags- You can expect a lot of trash when with kids. Either keep one big bag or a couple small ones and dispose off wherever you can. Helps keep the car clean.

Sun shield- You are definitely going to need these, especially with kids in the back seat. Invest in some good quality ones that would last long.

And MOST IMPORTANT, do not lose your calm. Kids are not used to travelling and shouting and yelling at them is going to make it even more difficult. So, stay calm, be patient and travel will be easy.

So, these are our travelling essentials for air travel and car travel that has made it easy for us. Lemme know if this post was helpful and if i missed out on something.

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This article is written as a part of SuperBloggerChallenge conducted by Healthwealthbridge.com https://healthwealthbridge.com/,  Allaboutthewoman.com https://allaboutthewoman.com/  and powered by Instacuppa http://blog.instacuppastore.com and should not be repurposed, republished or used otherwise. The content herein is owned by the blogger. SuperBloggerChallenge is not responsible for any infringement caused.”

HEALTH, self care, Uncategorized

Tried & tested tips to achieve health goals in 2019 #superbloggerchallenge #instacuppa @instacuppa

I am sure majority of us must have made a list of their new year resolutions. And that most of those lists have weight loss and fitness goals in them. But how many of us are actually able to keep up with these goals? How many end up going to the gym for the entire year and not just for the month of january?

In this post i will be sharing some tried and tested tips that have helped me keep up with my healthy lifestyle goals for the past 8 months.

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MOTIVATION- It is very important to stay motivated throughout the fitness journey. One can use diffrent startegies to keep themselves motivated. However, the most powerful motivators that i have found are- some person you want to be like (i remember i had this friend at our last posting who used to never miss the gym even for a day unless and until there is some emergency. I looked at her as my motivation which made sure that i hit the gym everyday); old pictures of your self (pictures from your super skinny days or fitter days. I have one as my phone wallpaper at all times. Everytime i look at it, it reminds me of where i want to be); old clothes/ smaller garment sizes (i have this pair of jeans from my super skinny days. Every couple of months i try it out to reality check where i am and how much more i need to work). You can even as your partner/ friend to keep motivating you every now and then. Even better join support groups.

PLAN- Planning is the next important step. This includes meal plans and exercise plans. Remember we do not want to end up tired and starving. So, jot down a meal plan and exercise routine and follow that. This goes a long way in keeping you on track and not letting go.

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GOALS- Remember, you need to have something to look forward to. Something you need to achieve. Also, goals have to be SMART and REALISTIC. Unattainable goals remain unfulfilled and lead to disappointment. Goals need to be small, specific, sustainable, attainable and timely. Always start with small goals. Several small goals will help you achieve one big goal later. For eg, if you aim to drink 3 litres of water a day. Start with drinking 1 litre everyday and slowly and steadily reach the 3 litre mark.

JOURNAL- Note down each and everything that you do during this journey. What you eat, when you ate, how much did you eat, how much did you workout and how many times a week. When you have your daily routine in front of you, you will know where you went wrong and what needs to be changed. This is by far the best way to give you a reality check.

ONE STEP AT A TIME- Note down all that you need to change with your eating and exercise pattern. And start with one change at a time. Too many changes at once wont last longer. Remember slow and steady wins the race.

WATER INTAKE- Adequate water intake is the key to losing weight. The right amount of water intake helps keep up the body:s metabolism. And better the metabolism, better the fat burning. Now, drinking plain water can be boring. I often felt nauseated after drinking too much of water, so opt for detox water or fruit infused water. You can also take juices, buttermilk, coconut water etc, instead on plain water.

Do read my detailed post on detox waters here- https://motherlymess.site/2019/02/16/let-everyday-be-a-detox-instacuppa-superbloggerchallenge-instacuppa/

KING SIZE BREAKFAST- Many a times we underestimate the power of a nice breakfast. And by nice i mean a big and healthy breakfast. The right breakfast is very important to keep up your energy levels through out the day and not give you the feeling of starving. Thus, automatically leadin to healthy food choices.

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SNACKING- I learnt this the hard way. Few months back there was a time i was so frustrated, because no matter what i tried, i couldnt reach my goal. Something was missing. Thats when i read this post on the effects of snacking. Snacking every couple of hours improves the body’s metabolism and fat burning capacity. It also helps maintain the blood sugar levels and prevents hunger. Eat 5 to 6 smaller meals than 3 big meals. More the gap between two meals. Mpre you feel starved and reach out to sugary snacks. Snacking on healthy options will avoid all of this and will keep you satiated. It prevents the body from going into starvation mode.

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CONSISTENCY- Remember, no matter what diet and exercise routine you follow, inconsistency will lead you nowehere. Being consistent is the key to this whle journey. Even if its a 5 km walk, but do it each and everyday without fail. Also, keep changing your workouts every few weeks. Once your body gets used to a certain workout, it wont respong to it further. so keep challenging your body and yourself.

REWARD SUCCESS- Reward yourself after achieving every small goal. Rewards might be a cheat meal (cheat meal not a chaet day), or a movie date, or some retail therapy. whatever makes you happy. Positive reinforcement is very very important tp keep up your spirits.

All these above mentioned tips have been personally tried and followed by me, so i can vouch for each one of them. These things have helped me keep up with my fitness game.

Remember….

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This article is written as a part of SuperBloggerChallenge conducted by Healthwealthbridge.com https://healthwealthbridge.com/health/ ,  Allaboutthewoman.com https://allaboutthewoman.com/woman-health/  and powered by Instacuppa https://instacuppastore.com and should not be repurposed, republished or used otherwise. The content herein is owned by the blogger. SuperBloggerChallenge is not responsible for any infringement caused.”

HEALTH, self care, Skincare, Uncategorized

Let everyday be a DETOX. #INSTACUPPA #SUPERBLOGGERCHALLENGE @instacuppa

Detox water is one of the best ways to keep your weight loss game on track. Now, we all are aware of the fact that drinking lots of water or keeping yourself hydrated enough speeds up the body’s metabolism and thus helps with the weight loss.

Drinking plain water can become boring at times. Sometimes I feel nauseous if I drink too much of water. So why not add some natural ingredients to it to make it interesting and tasty at the same time. Wouldn’t it be better to drink water from a colourful jar or bottle.

We need detox water to flush out the toxins from our body. Adding fruits and veges and herbs to this water just speeds up the process as compared to drinking plain water.

There are certain rules I follow for my detox water recipes.

  • Add in cucumbers as much as possible. Cucumbers act as natural diuretics and so prevent water retention when had on a daily basis. They also have rehydrating properties.
  • Never forget the citrus component. It has fat burning enzymes and also helps the digestive tract. Plus it adds a nice flavour to the water.
  • Herbs are very important as they contain cleansing properties and also act as stress relievers. They contain anti-oxidants which help flush out toxins.

Lemon water– as simple as it sounds, lemon water is one the best detox drinks. Just add a few slices of lemon or lemon wedges to a pitcher, some mint leaves and some cucumber slices. Add lots of ice (this is optional) and fill it with water. Let it sit for atleast 2 to 3 hours. Ta-da…detox water is ready.

Watermelon love– I don’t think there is anyone who doesn’t love watermelons. The red colour, the taste and added advantage of all that water makes it a go to fruit during the summers. So, I thought why to just eat it plain, and why not try a detox drink out of it. And let me tell you it tasted yum. It has become my go to detox water during summers. How to make it? Just add some watermelon pieces, some mint leaves, and a couple lemon slices (you can even add lemon juice instead of the slices). Add some crushed ice and top the jar or bottle with water. Let it sit for 3 to 4 hours and voila! Watermelon love is ready.

Twisty Lemon water– just combine lemon slices, rosemary and ginger in a jar. Top it all with crushed ice and water. And your twisty lemon water is ready to be consumed.

Fruit mix– so as the name suggests its not just one fruit that you will need. For this recipe you will need one pear, one orange and few strawberries, cut them all up into slices/ wedges. Add these to a pitcher alongwith some mint leaves and lemon wedges. Add in ice and water and let it sit for a couple of hours. Your fruit mix is ready to hydrate you through the day.

Berrylicious– you will need around one cup of blueberries, some rosemary and water. That’s all. Add in some crushed ice as well. Enjoy your berrylicious drink in those hot summers.

Detox green tea– yes, that’s right. Green tea can also be used in detox waters. You will need green tea (brew it like you always do or use green tea bags), lemon, honey, strawberries and cucumber. The first step is to brew your green tea as usual and then put it in the refrigerator for about 20 minutes to chill. To this add one lemon slice, 1 strawberry cut into pieces, 2 to 3 cucumber slices and a little honey. Stir well and add ice (optional). This can even be a great drink when you have your friends over.

Making your own detox water seems so easy, especially when at home. But what when you are travelling or you want to carry it to work or take it along when you have to wait outside your kids school to pick them up. INSTACUPPA comes to rescue at such times. InstaCuppa Double Walled Borosilicate Glass Green Tea Detox Bottle 450 ML with Steel Infuser Unit. is your perfect partner. Not just for fruit infusion but this bottle can be used for tea infusion, coffee infusion or even as a simple glass bottle with a capacity of 450 ml. To top it all it comes with a thermal infusion, anti sweat neoprene sleeve, which makes carrying it around even easier. The infusion unit is made up of premium grade stainless steel and the bottle has an eco friendly leak proof silicon lining bamboo lid. The bottle is made up of double- walled borosilicate glass. This heat resistant material makes it ideal for making and carrying hot as well as cold detox teas/ brews. This is just too much of goodness in one product.

Amazon link- https://amzn.to/2HT4BTU

INSTACUPPA has another option of their InstaCuppa Vacuum Insulated Thermos Travel Mug 470 ML with Steel Infuser Unit. With a 1 click open/ close lid operation, anti slip silicon grip and powder coated matte finish, this mug looks sleek as well as stylish. Health as well as style. It can keep beverages hot for upto 6 hours and cold for upto 12 hours. Oh wait! It can also fit in your car cup holder, gym bag and even your back pack.

Amazon link- https://amzn.to/2HRzYOy

So no more excuses. Get the healthy detox water in and kick the stubborn fat out.

Drink more water- your skin, hair, mind and body will than you for a lifetime.

Do read my detailed post on the benefits of green tea and how it helped me here https://motherlymess.site/2019/02/13/in-a-committed-relationship-with-green-tea-how-it-has-helped-me/

Also, checkout my video post about super blogger challenge and how it has helped me as a blogger here 👉 https://youtu.be/eZ0OBwHzbfQ

#INSTACUPPA #SUPERBLOGGERCHALLENGE @instacuppa

Note: This article is written as a part of SuperBloggerChallenge2019 conducted by Healthwealthbridge.com, Allaboutthewoman.com and should not be repurposed, republished or used otherwise. The content herein is owned by the blogger. SuperBloggerChallenge2019 is not responsible for any kind of infringement caused.”

HEALTH, self care, Uncategorized

In a committed relationship with green tea- how it has helped me #superbloggerchallenge #instacuppa

I believe, chai is the most consumed beverage in the indian household. I need my cup of masala chai first thing in the morning. Its like that stimulant to kickstart my day. And like most of us, I enjoy my tea with lots of milk and a little sugar. Now I am a person who cannot have my chai just like that. I need something to munch on with it. And usually what goes best with masala chai is biscuits (to be specific- ParleG), cookies, toast/ rusk and sometimes even namkeens. And all of these are the problematic part. They were definitely not helping with my fitness journey. I mean, you cant stop at one biscuit/ cookie/ rusk/ one spoon of namkeen right?

Now, my body has a low metabolic rate. It takes me a lot to get it up to lose those extra calories and unwanted fat. In all these years i have tried lots of tips and tricks to get the metabolism going, but all in vain. So, finally in September 2018 after a lot of speculation, i decided to go with the green tea trend. I had once had a cup of green tea at my dad’s office and i hated the taste, and so i was avoiding it all this while. Initially, the effects of green tea were not visible/ were minimal. I thought this trick also failed. But to my surprise a couple of weeks later, the resukts were quite visible. I was surprised, as to how drinking just 2 cups of this magic drink could help so much.

Lets dig in to “HOW HAVING GREEN TEA CHANGED MY LIFE”.

I started with 2 cups of green tea in a day (morning, evening).

  • The first good thing that happened was that i quit eating all those sugary biscuits and namkeens. I automatically started looking for healthy snacking options. I realised, i enjoyed them only with my masala chai and secondly, I understood that they were completely unwanted.
  • Increased metabolism– This was what I needed for my fitness journey to be successful. It not only increased the metabolism but also the fat burning process. Earlier i used to eat meals because the clock told me that it was time to. But now, i started feeling hungry. This led me to eat at 3 to 4 hourly intervals, which also aided the body metabolism.
  • Fluid retention– Whenever i am on my period, i notice fluid retention. Or even if i sit for too long or long road travels always gave me swelled feet. The natural diuretic properties of the green tea helped me with that and now no more fluid retention. Though i wish i had vaccum insulated thermos and travel mugs so I could carry my brew with me on road journeys (as that problem still persists).
  • Improved energy levels– The caffiene content in the green tea acts as  a stimulant. So, this was the perfect stimulant i needed every morning, plus it also improved my exercise performance. I could do more as compared to earlier. I could run. I am not a runner, but wanted to include it in my exercise regime. Having green tea especially before my workout in the evening helped improve my stamina. I so want to try the green tea smoothies, but the problem carry along remains. I need to get the perfect thermoc or travel mug.
  • Reduced belly fat– Subcutaneous fat is the most problematic fat. it leads to life threatening diseases like diabetes, heart problems etc. The flavanoids and catechins in the green tea specifically target this kind of fat. and the most common problematic area is the belly fat. Its been almost 5 months since i started having this tea and i have already lost around 2 inches of belly fat. I know its not much, but as they say something is better than nothing. I know this is not the end, i have a long way to go. but these results is what keeps me motivated.
  • Glowing skin– Having an oily skin gives me loads of problems (pores, acne, blackheads, pigmentation etc.). Thanks to green tea, my problems have reduced. The anti oxidants and free radicals present in the tea help in minimizing the pores and so lesser dirt deposition and lesser acne and pimples. It also repairs the damage caused by the harmful UVA and UVB radiations. Wet green tea bags when applied over the eyes, also helps reduce the undereye puffiness and dark circles. All of its anti inflammatory and anti bacterial properties is what gives you a healthy, clear and glowing skin.

From being hesitant to try green tea to having a committed relationship with it- I have come a long way. There are times when i am on the go and miss carrying it along, but i never miss a cup when at home. I know getting hold of it is easy at any cafe or restaurant, but let me tell you, i hate the taste of those tea bags. Over these past couple of months, i have tried some organic green tea leaves and believe me you, they taste much better. I like brewing my own green tea, the whole process makes me happy, that colour and aroma itself makes me feel fresh. Only if i had a vaccum insulated thermos/ travel mug to carry it along. WELL INSTACUPPA has the solution InstaCuppa Vacuum Insulated Thermos Travel Mug 470 ML with Steel Infuser Unit. This BPA and Lead free high quality heat resistant glass is ideal for carrying both hot and cold detox brews. It also has a bamboo lid which makes it air tight so its even better.

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‘ A cup of green tea makes everything better’… 

 

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Parenthood, Uncategorized, WOMEN ISSUES

GOPI & GEET- A DAY IN THEIR LIFE

Its 6:00 AM, my alarm beeps. I snooze it and catch up on 15 more minutes of sleep. My second alarm goes off at 6:15 AM, I want to sleep more but its time to wake up! I stretch a little and enter T’s room to wake her up. it takes me around 20 more minutes to get her on her feet. Meanwhile my 2 year old toddler ‘P’ wakes up Gopi. I start preparing breakfast and tiffin in the kitchen while Gopi gets ‘T’ bathed and ready for school. Once i am done i take charge of the kids and Gopi rushes to get ready for the office. I lay down the breakfast on the table and rush down with the kids to catch the school bus. Like every day, ‘P’ insists on playing on the swings and in the sand pit. It has become a daily ritual for us now. and as i turn back i see Gopi leaving for office.

Its 9:00 AM, we are back home and ‘P’ asks for his milk. After having his milk he insists on playing with the blocks and dolls. I settle him on his play mat and finally make myself a cup of hot tea. Thats when i realised that i forgot to have my morning glass of warm water (MENTAL NOTE: kal se pucca, will jot it down in the to-do-list). I scroll through my social media as I sip my tea and watch my son play. Its now time to go through the to-do-list for the day. I make a mental note of all that needs to be done and add a few things here and there in the list and stick it on the fridge. Well, did i mention my “DRINK WATER” post its that i have through out the house, because i often forget that as well, with all the housework and work assignments.

‘P’ starts getting cranky as he is hungry again. Its time for breakfast. I reheat the Poha and we enjoy it with some tea in our balcony. He loves to look at the birds, cars, buses and people passing by while having his breakfast in the high chair. Finally after all the messy eating and some more play I bathe ‘P’ and put him down for his nap. PHEW…I go through all my work mails and pending assignmets while he naps (Oh i am a architect by the way and i freelance). While completing my work i catch up with my mother and MIL, and then have a bath.

Its 1 PM and the bell rings. Its our househelp. As usual she gives me a disgusted look and enters the kitchen. As usual, i ignore her looks and instruct her what all needs to be chopped for lunch and the evening snack. I love cooking. It takes me another hour to prepare lunch and prep for the evening snack. Oh look ‘P’ is up from his nap and is hungry. I feed him lunch and some water and he wants a story. So, i read him a story. While doing so, the maid leaves the house, again giving me a disgusted look as always. After reading the story 5 times, i decide to settle him for some cartoon time while i could have my lunch peacefully. Post lunch I decide to lie down next to him while he enjoys his cartoon, but he decides that he wants to jump on me and wants me to play.

My 4:00 PM alarm goes off and its time to go downstairs as ‘T’ comes back from school. I help her change her clothes, we talk about her day at school and she insists on doing an activity kit on her own. I let her have some “me time” while i keep the toddler busy. Its 5:30 PM and time to make some tea. The kids want their snack too. Its vegetable tikki today. The bell rings and the kids rush towards the door. Its Gopi! Gopi is showered with kisses and hugs from the kids (makes me jealous sometimes). Soon enough the maid is here. I ask Gopi and the kids what they want for dinner and instruct the maid accordingly. Dinner is prepared while we sip our tea in the kitchen and discuss about our day. As the clock struck 6, the kids insist on going down to play. Both I and Gopi go down with them and stroll around the park a little while watching the them play.

Finally its time for my dance class. Gopi takes ‘P’ back home while ‘T’ continues playing with her friends. And after 1 hour of exhausting Bollyfit lessons and exercise, I rush back home with ‘T’. The kids keep away all their toys in place and we all have our dinner. We take charge of one kid each (usually its Gopi and P and Me and T) and manage to put them to bed by 9 PM. And alas, we enjoy some “us” time. Somewhere around 11 PM we doze off to sleep. Oh wait!!! I forgot to soak rajma for tomorrows lunch, and the school uniform needs ironing too, i need to soak the clothes as well, Oh and i need to check whether is enough milk in the fridge for the night as ‘P’ wakes up for his feed at 2 AM.

OK! 12 AM and i can finally go to bed. I promise tomorrow will be a better day and I promise myself to take out some “me” time from my schedule. and yes, i need to join the gym too.

GN diary and TC.

Geet’s journal (Father to 2 and husband to a working wife & mom. Well, why else do you think the maid gives me disgusted looks? And yeah i know the dance class part and chatting to mom and MIL part must have made you think that i am the wife. But I am here to break the stereotypes, I am here to make a change. I am proud of the fact that Geet works from home while Gopi goes to office. I am proud that our parents never discriminated between me and my sister and I am here to raise my children the way i was raised.

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HEALTH, self care, Uncategorized

Healthy eating habits to follow in 2019

Since its New year’s soon, most of us must have started making their New Years Resolution lists. And one of the most common resolution is “getting fit and starting to eat healthy”. But somehow, our resolutions last only for a couple of months, like our gym visits. This is because we usually look for or turn towards short term and short cut measures to achieve them. And not just as a new year’s resolution, but lot many of us decide to eat healthy every now and then and lose our way soon.

What we don’t realise is, that eating healthy is a ‘lifestyle change’. It should be such that you can follow easily and that lasts you the entire year.

Developing sustainable habits is very important in this journey. Most of our eating habits are established during our childhood, but that doesn’t mean we can’t change them later in life. As I always say, ‘getting fit & eating healthy’ is a conscious effort. It takes a lot of work and time as well.

Here are a few pointers that have helped me with my healthy eating journey over the past year.

Plan ahead- until last year I never planned our meals ahead. So many a times, when you cant decide what to cook, we ended up ordering outside food. This not only burns a hole in your pockets, but stocks up on unnecessary calories on you. This was the first step that I took on my healthy eating journey. To start with, I started to meal plan for the next 2 days. When I succeeded in following that, I started planning for the entire week. So, after stocking up on the groceries, I sit down and plan all the meals for the whole week or you can even do it the other way around, plan your meals and then stock up on groceries accordingly, and post it on the fridge. So every morning I know what all I have to prep for the day. This will help you staying away from junk. Having a break once in a while is ok and needed too. But for the most part of the week, follow as planned.

Maintain a food journal/ app- to be honest I am not very good at this. I always end up missing days together. But if you do this religiously, it helps a lot. Every night, before going to bed, note down what all you have eaten that entire day. Do this for a week. At the end of the week, REFLECT on those notes. It will give you an account what all bad and good food choices you made and where you need to cut down. This is especially helpful with snacking.
Read the labels on packaged foods- packaged foods contain high amounts of preservatives, fats, sugar, salts, man made food colourings and other chemicals. These foods aim at convenience and lack the necessary nutrients and fibres.

Mindful Stocking up of groceries- stock up on everything fresh (fruits and vegetables). Stock up on pulses and other wholesome foods. Do not get any fried foods or ready to eat or 2-minute foods. I know we crave for these things when we want to snack on something. But when it won’t be available to you, you will look to other healthy food choices. Snack on cucumbers and carrots, include nuts in your daily diet. This point has worked best for me. I always ended up eating French fries and smileys as snacks. But now when I don’t see them, I don’t crave for them. As I read somewhere “Put the treats out of sight and the fruit bowl on the counter”.

Cook often- cook as much as possible. Home cooked food is any time better and nutritious than packaged or take-home food. If you are not able to cook every day, do all the meal prep once or twice a week. This will save up on cooking time plus and you will eat home cooked healthy food. You can even play with spices and flavours according to your palette. Plus it’s the best way to know what’s on your plate and in your system.

Mindful eating- it is your foundation for adapting healthy eating. Be aware of what you are eating/ what you are putting in your mouth. This is very important for making healthy food choices. Never eat in front of the TV or while scrolling on the phone. Stay away from any sort of distraction and pay more attention to what you are putting on your plate. You will automatically stop eating when full and will feel more satisfied.
Eating slowly- I remember, my father telling me as a child, that I need to chew every bite 32 times. He used to tell me no. of times= no. of teeth. Now, I realise that he was making sure that eat slowly. This helps in proper break down and digestion of the food. Plus, it also makes us aware of our hunger levels. Gobbling up the entire food mindlessly is a bad habit. You will end up eating more than what your body wants or needs. Pause before taking a bite, and chew slowly & intentionally.

Eat 5 to 6 meals a day- instead of eating your whole meal at once, and gobbling it up to clear your plate, divide your food portions. Like for example you are used to eating 2 rotis for lunch, so make a change by eating 1 at lunch and the other 2 to 3 hours later. Eating small and frequent meals helps keep the body metabolism up, which is very important for getting fit and weight loss. This will also help you to control your portion sizes.

Eat all the colours/ seasonal fruits- every fruit & vegetable has a different colour because of the constituting vitamins, minerals, antioxidants etc. and each of these have a specific role to play. So it is very important that we fill our plates with all the available colours. This way, we get more variation nutrient wise. Plus, the colourful presentation will be interesting to eat. It will also give you an opportunity to try new food groups.

Water first- I have personally realised, that lot many times, when we feel that we are hungry or we have the urge to put something in our mouth for no reason whatsoever, we are actually thirsty. Drinking a glass of water before eating anything, will help you in such situations. And trust me, I have tried this and it has turned out to be true most of the times. Water is an essential for life. It is required for absorption, digestion and transportation of nutrients, it is also needed for removal of body wastes and regulating body temperature. So use this method to stay hydrated.

Eat early/ at least 2 hours before bed time- post dinner the usual thing we do is lie down on the bed. And since there is no or very less physical activity post dinner, our food is burned and digested properly. Plus we feel full and groggy the next morning. The best way to avoid this is to have a minimum of 2hours gap post your dinner. What I usually do is, I try and complete my 10k steps during this time. So I either take my kids out to gaze at the stars and moon, or I do some chores for the next day like soaking the nuts for the morning etc. the idea behind it is not to sleep immediately post meals.

Snacking- Snacking is the best way to curb our cravings and also doesn’t let us starve. With our daily office work, household chores, kids etc. we forget to keep a tab of what and when we have eaten, often leading to starving and then we give in to unhealthy cravings. Snacking throughout the day and especially in between meals will keep us from staving. Snack on healthy options like nuts, fruits, carrots and cucumbers with hummus, fox nuts, puffed rice etc.